Become an adultier adult in the New Year by creating habits, not setting resolutions

Do you set New year’s resolutions? I’ll be honest, I freaking LOVE New Year’s resolutions. It’s probably tied in with my love for list making, planners, and new pens but I digress

It’s a hopeful feeling every year when I sit down to list them all out. No one is more full of promise than January 1st me.
Every New Year’s day as I eat my black eyed peas for luck and my spinach greens for wealth I think “Maybe this is my year, the year I actually get myself together!”

However, like most people who aren’t absolute freak of nature rockstars (I’m looking at my sister) those resolutions quickly go out the window.
Each year my resolutions fail.
I fail.
Year after year I perform this useless ritual all over again, as hopeful as my toddler when I tell him “we’ll see”, dutifully writing out my New Year’s resolutions.
Am I crazy or just an eternal optimist?
Wait. Don’t answer that.

Bandy Homestead | Throw out those New Year’s resolutions and build habits instead!

This year I’m trying something different and I’d love for you to join me!
We’ll still be bettering ourselves, but maybe this time it will stick!

[Insert very excited squealing!]
I’m still stupidly hopeful, and trying to be a better me, but in a more attainable and long lasting way.
Instead of lofty resolutions that look really nice on paper but rarely pan out, things like, “I want to be a super social person and a delight to all I come in contact with”, which will obviously never happen, I’ll be working on practical habits that will help me in the normal day to day.

Future us is going to be so thankful!

Research says it takes 21 days to make a habit. I’m admittedly terrible at math but the months have at least 28 days so I think I’ll be all set. I’ll be choosing a new habit to work on each month. I haven’t mapped out all 12 months but here are the biggies I’m starting out with.


Follow a cleaning schedule. This month will be all about doing set chores each day, and sticking to it!
My house is a constant battle and source of stress. I get really overwhelmed by all the things that need to be done. I know logically if I just did a little bit each day it wouldn’t be so bad, but knowing it and doing it are two different things.


The month of love! The perfect February habit is one I have struggled with the last half of the year.
I want to speak with love.
I will be making my home a haven and responding to my kids and husband with a loving tone. Sounds easy right? Wrong. It’s incredibly hard sometimes. There’s no sense in lying about it.
When they’re bombarding me with questions and not listening it’s really easy to speak to them in a less than kind way. That’s not what I want them to hear from me. It’s definitely not how I want them to remember me. Come February I will be focused on channeling my inner Sally Clarkson. Obviously I’ll be working on this in January as well, but really making a hard push in February.


This month is all about working on my wake up and bedtime routines! I know how important a morning and night routine is. I’ve seen firsthand how well it works and how having them affects my life, but for some reason (laziness) I just can’t stick to it for more than a week.

I’m hoping to change all that!

Do you follow a morning/night routine?

If so leave a comment and tell me what’s on it!
My morning routine would be get dressed to leave the house, even if I’m not. Always start a load of laundry. Refresh kitchen, aka clean up all the breakfast mess. Bible time and morning devotion.
Nightly routine would be something like set the coffee pot. Pick up the dinner mess. Wash face. (Yes, I fail at washing my face, I really suck at adulting)


Take a daily walk. I’m really hoping by April to have implemented some healthier habits(that’s a post for another day!) but if not this is the perfect time for this goal!

Even better because the weather will hopefully be turning to spring! We have 10 acres, it’s a shame not to use them. The kids will love this one! I may even get the husband on board.

Whew! I’m going to stop there. I’m trying to make these attainable after all!

I think four months is a good start!

I’ll be updating these as I remember other areas of my life where I am a huge failure!
Mostly kidding. But not really.
I’ll also be working on separate habits with the kids! That post will be coming soon so stay tuned!

What do you need to work on to be an adultier adult?
Tell me some of the habits you would add in the comments!

Bandy Homestead | become an adultier adult New Year’s Resolutions

  1. Sherry

    December 28th, 2018 at

    These are great habits to work on! I’d love to jump on board with ya!

  2. Kristen Bandy

    December 28th, 2018 at

    Yay!! Let’s do it! Teamwork makes the dream work!

  3. J

    December 28th, 2018 at

    Honestly, showering more often is a goal 😂🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

  4. Kristen Bandy

    December 28th, 2018 at

    Girl yes!! Same!

  5. Sasha

    December 28th, 2018 at

    The adult habit I legit need to work on is sitting down with our checkbook WEEKLY. I only tend to remember on pay days and when I have to pay bills. but other than that I’m already working on those morning/night routines. It’s my constant struggle. Alexa is helping me…she’s good motivation.

  6. Kristen Bandy

    December 28th, 2018 at

    Ugh. But it’s soooo boring! 😂

  7. Courtney Starns

    December 28th, 2018 at

    ON BOARD. It’s about time I start acting like an adult.

  8. Kristen Bandy

    December 28th, 2018 at

    Omg same!

  9. Lacey

    December 28th, 2018 at

    Yeah, something about budgeting/not frivolously spending money is on my list somewhere! The rest of these are great!

  10. Kristen Bandy

    December 28th, 2018 at

    Stay away from target then!

  11. Taylor Sundstrom

    December 28th, 2018 at

    Okay I am so with you on each of these! My housekeeping has definitely improved this year but I really need to nail a schedule down to stay consistent, so that will be my January habit!

  12. Kristen Bandy

    December 28th, 2018 at

    I’m so excited to have some accountability!

  13. Kelsey

    December 29th, 2018 at

    Being grateful!! Sounds so easy, but it’s so hard with two toddlers driving me bonkers 24/7!!!!

  14. Maggie

    January 2nd, 2019 at

    Love this idea! Would be really interested in seeing your cleaning schedule! Good luck in the new year!

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